You’re Always There for Others. But Where Are You in Your Own Life?
You show up for everyone.
You anticipate needs before they’re spoken.
You offer support, hold space, say yes—because that’s who you’ve always been.
But when it’s time to choose you?
You hesitate.
You shrink.
You second-guess.
It feels selfish. It feels unfamiliar. It feels unsafe.
This is self-abandonment.
And for many women of color, it’s been normalized for generations.
Reflection Prompt:
What does your body do when you want to say no, but say yes anyway?
Where do you feel the cost of that in your body?
What Self-Abandonment Looks Like
It often hides in plain sight:
- Saying yes when you mean no
- Staying silent to avoid disappointing others
- Prioritizing others’ needs while ignoring your own
- Feeling resentment but still continuing to give
It’s not just about over-giving.
It’s about a pattern of leaving yourself—again and again—to be accepted, to be loved, to be enough.
Why It’s So Common—and So Costly
Many of us were raised to be caretakers before we ever learned to care for ourselves.
We were taught:
- Keep the peace.
- Don’t make it about you.
- Love means sacrifice.
But what if that sacrifice keeps costing you your voice, your joy, your truth?
Many of us were raised to be caretakers before we ever learned to care for ourselves.
Becoming Blueprint™ Is the Practice of Choosing You
Legacy isn’t only about what you achieve. It’s also about what you normalize, embody, and pass down.
When you rest, you:
- Disrupt cycles of burnout passed down through generations
- Teach your body that safety doesn’t require suffering
- Make space for gentleness, creativity, and clarity
- Offer your lineage something softer, more humane
Rest isn’t a pause from your legacy. It’s part of your legacy
You Are Worth Showing Up For
You don’t have to keep abandoning yourself to feel loved.
You don’t have to earn your place by disappearing.
You don’t have to wait for someone else to choose you.
Let Becoming Blueprint™ be the space where you choose yourself—fully, fiercely, and finally.
You are not here to be an afterthought in your own life.
